A quick guide to dealing with New Englanders

By on September 11th, 2009 In Advice

People in New England are different.   There is NO doubt about it.   Here are my tips for working with them if you have clients, PR brethren, or vendors in New England (that’s Maine, New Hampshire, Vermont, Massachusetts, Connecticut, and Rhode Island):

1).  Speak quickly.   Don’t dawdle or drawl.  They HATE that.

2).  Don’t make a joke unless it’s really witty.  

3).  Use humor as much as possible.   (see above)

4). Walk around with a Dunkin Donuts cup or box.  

5).  Wear darker colors.

6). Let your hair just grow – for goodness’ sakes, don’t style it – you’ll immediately look out of place.

7).  Learn the vernacular – “color” is coluh, “Rhode Island” is “ruh-disland,” “idea” is “idear,” “liquor” is “likka” – you get the idea. 

8). Ignore their gruff exterior.  They don’t even know they’re doing it.  Use some wit and they warm right up.

9).  Tell them you love the Red Sox.   Do NOT wear ANY Yankees shirts, caps.

10).  Don’t hum in public.   My husband was doing that early at the gym this morning, and they all started backing away.  He can’t help it – he’s from Wisconsin.

Twenty years in Arizona have definitely warmed me up, literally and figuratively.  But I still get impatient if people don’t get to the point quickly or if they resort to humor I consider the “obvious, low hanging fruit on the apple tree.”   Seinfeld said once in an interview with Barbara Walters that he thought comedians on the east coast had the best humor because they had to work harder to overcome life’s daily weather and traffic challenges.   When you go futher west, he said, the lifestyle gets easier, so you don’t have as many hurdles, ergo less of a need to meet them with humor.    That’s debatable, but I see his point.

Comments

Sarah Ellis Says:
September 11th, 2009 at 10:29 am

Having just moved to Boston from Phoenix, I really appreciate this blog post. I will certainly use this advice when dealing with new colleagues, business associates, etc. I think you should add a point about “wicked” … and explain to me why this word is so popular out here!

Linnea Maxwell Says:
September 11th, 2009 at 1:01 pm

Out where?

Linda VandeVrede Says:
September 11th, 2009 at 2:24 pm

Sarah, I’m not sure why “wicked” is such an over-used adjective here. Everything is “wicked awesome,” “wicked good.” I personally never used it growing up, but I think I was buffered by the fact that I grew up in a Navy town.

Deb Says:
September 11th, 2009 at 8:13 pm

This is funny stuff, Linda. I, too, grew up in a New England Navy town (thankfully managed to somehow not adopt the accent and “wicked good” grammar, however)… I wonder if we’re from the same area. We’ll have to catch up when you get back into town!

Diane D'Angelo Says:
September 12th, 2009 at 4:47 pm

What a wicked pissah post!

Matthew Dutile Says:
September 14th, 2009 at 10:46 am

Having grown up an hour outside of Boston I can verify most of this is pretty on the mark. We’re wicked cool people. PS – Chowda down by the harba is always your #1 go to lunch choice haha.

Jen Zingsheim Says:
September 18th, 2009 at 1:04 pm

New Hampshire here…more to add: just wait until it snows! It can snow for four days straight, and it’s “ah, this is nothing. It’s New England.”

Also, never throw anything out that might, one day, ever, ever be useful. “Yankee frugality.”

(Odd, you would think with the Yankees aversion, there would be another term for that…)

I love it here!

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